Comfort and Joy

I will turn their mourning into gladness; I will
give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow.
Jeremiah 31:13

Friday, March 15, 2013

Five for Friday

Five for Friday - real life

This Five for Friday will describe real life in the Spence household.  I don't ever want my blog to come across as I have it all together because trust me, I don't.  It's just a lot easier to take the pictures when things are going well and looking good.  I forget to grab the camera when life is melting down even though that happens often more than the good moments.

1.  I am so thankful for my husband and couldn't imagine life without him in it.  He is truly my better half.  But let's be honest, marriage is hard and takes work.  Marriage is even harder for me when we have a newborn in the house.  I don't do well on lack of sleep so its hard for me to pour into my husband when I am tired and worn out from the kids.  I am hoping over the next few weeks Maggie will get into a better rhythm which will help me get more rest and be able to pour more into David and our marriage.  We desperately need a date night but my sweet girl only wants me right now and wants to nurse every 2 hours from about 4:00 on.  It makes going out on a date a little difficult.

2.  I LOVE being a mother...really love it and feel like its my calling but it is hard!  Parenting a 4 year old who has an attitude, talks back, and has a hard time focusing and obeying is H.A.R.D.  He is trying every bit of patience I have.  I find myself losing it with him far more than I would like to admit.  Thankfully he has sweet moments where he will randomly tell me he loves me and that I am the best mother.  Not sure I would survive without the little glimpses of sweetness he shows me.  Parenting a 2 year old is hard because you just never know what your going to get.  It's like the saying, Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what your gonna get.  That is very true with Miller.  You never know what he is going to get into next.  He keeps me on my toes for sure.  And parenting a newborn is hard because she just wants her mommy right now.  I love how much she loves me but a little break every once in a while would be helpful.  We are working on taking a bottle and being ok with others.  Its just going to take some time.  This quote is definitely how I feel.

3.  Losing weight after 4 babies is hard (I put this in bold this one because that is how strong I feel about it being hard).  I gained a lot with my sweet girl and its going to take time to get it off but it is hard.  I am trying really hard to change how I eat because I know that is the most important thing because working out right now doesn't happen often enough with 3 kids 4 and under.

4.  Life has thrown some hard knock blows lately and literally taken my breath away.  A friend from church tragically lost her husband from a freak tree accident almost 2 weeks ago.  She is 35 with 3 kids and now a widow.  It truly breaks my heart.  I don't know what she is going through but I do understand deep grief and sadness.  I am on my knees praying for her daily and would love for you to join me.  Her name is Ashley.  I can only imagine that she is at rock bottom and thankfully she has a solid foundation of the Lord in her life to rebuild her life.  It is not the life she imagined but one that she has been given.  Her husbands funeral was very similar to Forrest's with the same songs and the same preacher so it brought back a lot of hard memories of loss and grief.  I was at rock bottom and had to rebuild my life in a way I had not planned but I can see the way He carried me through just like He will carry Ashley.  

5.  This last quote had me laughing out loud.  Now that I have a daughter and I have seen how young teenage girls (and even adults sometimes) dress, it made me laugh even harder.  Happy Friday friends!  Enjoy the weekend!
Source: via Brittany on Pinterest


Molly Witherington said...

I hear you on #3. And I've only been pregnant 3 times! I am so jealous of the people who get the weight sucked off of them by breastfeeding. And it's so hard to control what you eat when your life revolves around food. I think 80% of my time is spent feeding someone or thinking about what I'm going to feed them next. And yes, no time for exercise these days! I am going to try hard to get up early to run or walk once Hunt starts sleeping through the night consistently.

The Rohman Family said...

I can't imagine life having had 4 full term pregnancies and 3 littles at home. And I know you didn't put it on your blog for sympathy. But, for real, don't be too hard on yourself :)

Emilee Odette Garrett said...

Praying you get your date night soon! And those middle children... They are fun, but so much work! Thank you for giving me very specific things I can pray for Ashley. You are so wise. Love you!

Sheley Taras said...

Brittany, I love your honesty! Life is so hard in so many ways! The day in, day out with kids and a family is a constant struggle! So thankful the Lord knows every struggle we face and goes there with us! Without Him, life would be impossible!

Speelman Family said...

Loved all these!

ashleywheatley said...

oh brit! i am so sorry, ella told me about this family and the tree incident, and i wondered if you knew them. that is so sad, and so hard! praying for them.
and for your sweet maggie and your boys. love you sweet friend and so thankful for you!